Becoming a mom has enhanced my life in so many ways. I’ve gained knowledge, experience, perspective and the ability to love in a way that I never knew possible.
But for all that I’ve gained in motherhood, there are some things I’ve lost. One of the main things is the desire to take care of myself. My time is limited. So, I typically use the time that I do have to take care of my girls.
But I’ve recently realized that it’s important for mamas to make themselves a priority. Here are 10 budget and time-friendly self-care tips you should try this weekend.
1. Give yourself a mani and pedi. It’s been a while since I’ve had the time (or money) to go get my nails done. If you find yourself in the same spot, you can do it yourself. Grab some cute nail polish – I love the defy & INSPIRE brand from Target. And for pedicures I bought an Amope Foot File. It’s easy to use. And it pays for itself in one trip you don’t take to the nail salon.
2. Take a hot bath. I’ve gained a new appreciation for being able to take even a 15 minute shower uninterrupted since I had kids. But from what I remember about being able to relax in the bath, it’s a great way to melt away stress. So run some hot water, light some candles, turn on some low music and let all that tension float away.
3. Give yourself a facial. I’ll admit it…after 9 years of taking care of tiny humans, I’ve pretty much got permanent bags under my eyes. This is one tired mama. So taking care of my skin is a must…mainly so my outside doesn’t reflect how I really feel. I love using face masks. And even when I can’t afford to splurge on big bottles, stores like Walmart sell sample size packets that I can stretch for two applications. It’s also a great way to try out different varieties.
4. Read a good book. The thing I love most about reading is how it can take you to so many different places. Even if you can’t afford to splurge at Barnes and Noble, a visit to your local library does the trick. And this is an activity even the kids can get into. Most local libraries have things like computers and puppets kids can use. So let them play while you read!
5. Binge watch a non-kid-friendly show. There are only so many episodes of PJ Masks, Spongebob, or Doc McStuffins a mom can take. When your kids let you reclaim your remote, binge watch a show with a PG-14 rating or higher. Adult humor helps me relax and I don’t have to fake interest. Not that I don’t want to help the Wonder Pets save the baby sea lion…but sometimes I want a little more from my shows.
6. Dance. Have you ever just danced silly around the house and actually felt happier afterward? That’s because when you move your brain release endorphins – the feel good chemical in your brain. Don’t have much rhythm? Who cares? But if you care, close the curtains and let loose. This is another activity kids can jump in on. My kids love when we dance around the house.
7. Chat with a friend. If you want to know who your real friends are…have a baby. A lot of my relationships went by the wayside once I was married and had kids. It wasn’t that I didn’t still love those I lost, it was just that we were going in different directions. But moms need friends, too. Talking with a friend – particularly those who can relate to what your going through – is a great way to relieve stress. And if your not good at making friends in person, you can always find your mom tribe on social media sites like Facebook and Instagram.
8. Sleep. Okay, this one might sound like a no brainer, but I’m terrible at taking the time to rest when I have the chance. When my kids are gone I usually use it as an opportunity to catch up on cleaning or my shows on my DVR. Or to blog. But take it from me, your brain and your body will thank you for recharging.
9. Take yourself on a date. It wasn’t until recently that I felt comfortable going out to eat alone. I even wrote a blog post about it. I always felt awkward and like people would stare at me and think I was lonely. But now I know how peaceful it can be to grab your computer, go to a restaurant and have a meal. You won’t have to share your food with any little people or take anyone to a gross public restroom.
10. Log off social media. How soon after you wake up do you find yourself scrolling down one of your social media feeds? I’m embarrassed to admit my answer. Social media has become second nature for most people. And while it has many benefits, like making and keeping up with friends, it can also become consuming. And you may also find yourself comparing your life to that seemingly perfect Instagram account. Sometimes it’s a good idea just to unplug – after you read this blog post, of course.
Hopefully this list gives you a start to taking care of yourself this weekend. What kinds of things are part of your self care routine?