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Mental Health

My Name Is Paulette And I’m A Chronic People Pleaser

Hi. My name is Paulette Parker and I’m a people pleaser. If someone asks me to do something – friends, family, colleagues, bosses – I am almost incapable of saying “no.” Low on cash? If I have it, it’s yours. Wanna hang out? Let’s go! – Even though I’m exhausted and broke. Need me to pick up that shift? Why…

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Mental Health

A Long Overdue Mental Health Update And Recommitment

Hey! Hello! Wow, it has been quite a while since I posted on this blog. In recent months my focus has kinda shifted. I love sharing my stories with you all and being open with my struggles with anxiety and depression. But to be honest, I became slightly discouraged by how few people actually read or were receptive to my…

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Lifestyle

Why Every Woman Needs A ‘Girl Tribe’

I’ve experienced, learned and gained so much since starting my blogging journey more than a year ago. But one thing that had stood out more than anything is the tribe of women forming around me that seems to be ever-growing. I started this adventure pretty much alone. I didn’t personally know any other bloggers. So, many of my earliest days were…

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My Divorce Is Final. Now What?
Parenting

My Divorce Is Final. Now What?

Yesterday my ex-husband (that’s a word that’ll make you feel old) and I finalized our divorce. It took six months and more expensive trips to Downtown Detroit than I could afford. It was a semi-strange feeling. Signing our divorce decree in the same building where we signed our marriage certificate. Our marriage officially ending just floors from where it officially…

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Finding Healing Through Sharing My Story
Mental Health

Finding Healing Through Sharing My Story

Last weekend I was booked to do two speaking engagements. On Friday I was a panelist for an event called “Let’s Talk About Black Women and Trauma” hosted by The Sisters’ Couch. It was an intimate and powerful conversation held at Good Cakes and Bakes in Detroit (which smelled amazing by the way). The audience members asked great questions and were…

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Finding The Courage To Follow Your Calling
Mental Health

Finding The Courage To Follow Your Calling

I’ve worked quite a few jobs since entering the workforce in my teens. From fast food, to retail, to banking. And now public radio. While all these jobs were in different industries, I had one common experience while working them: Restlessness. Every job I’ve had, no matter how much I made, how much I loved it, or how great my…

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Mental Health

Why I Need To Apologize For Being A Mental Health Hypocrite

I have a confession to make. I’ve been a huge hypocrite. I write blog posts and statuses, and attend events preaching the importance of mental health awareness and encouraging people to take care of themselves. But I haven’t been taking my own advice. My mental health has been on a huge decline. My anxiety and depression are kicking my butt.…

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Parenting

What Has Changed Since My Blended Family Broke Up

Parenting is hard. And in this landscape of uncertainty, fewer things are harder than becoming a blended family. Mom. Dad. Stepmom. Stepdad. Biological kids. Step kids. Joining two familial units that existed independently for any amount of time is no easy task. Two people with even slightly varying parenting styles and philosophies suddenly have to try to get on the…

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