My name is Paulette and I’m a hot mess mom.
I don’t live a pretty, Instagram perfect life. My house is often a mess. On any given day I have at least two baskets of clean laundry that need to be put away – but probably won’t. I often use TV to distract my kids so I can get some peace and quiet. And my family eats processed foods way more often than they should.
Whew! It feels good to get that off my chest.
I have no shame in admitting that I’m a hot mess most days. And I never try to portray my abilities as a mother any other way.
If you follow me on social media or know me in real life, then you know I like to approach parenting in an honest, blunt, and at times sarcastic way.
I’m honest about the fact that I sometimes make my kids breakfast for dinner out of laziness (although they think it’s a treat). How the highlight of my day is often the glass – or bottle – of wine I have after I put the kids to bed. Or how there have been occasions when I’ve fantasized about packing my things and running away to somewhere quiet – alone.
There have been times in my life where I have held myself to unreasonable and unattainable standards. I think social media plays a huge role in that. I see the parents with the clean, aesthetically-pleasing homes, the smiling children, the beautiful kitchens where they bake perfectly round cookies.
And in the past I have allowed that to cause me to be hard on myself.
But mamas, that’s not reality. Those shiny granite countertops are often wiped down right before the picture is snapped. Those smiling children were probably throwing a temper tantrum 15 minutes before that Instagram post. Those cookies might even be store-bought.
And behind that camera or iPhone is probably an exhausted mom at her wits end.
That is reality. It’s okay to be a hot mess. It’s okay to not live up to what society tries to tell us a mom should be. It’s okay to not be able to do it all. And it’s okay to admit it.
Letting go of what I thought I was supposed to be made me a happier mom. And happier moms make happier families.
So embrace that hot-messness today moms. You’ll thank yourself for it.