My mother raised me to be independent. She would often regale my siblings and I with stories of how she raised five kids, worked and provided all on her own.
She would tell me the importance of being able to do things on my own. How mothers don’t need “breaks” from their kids.
All of this has shaped my attitude about getting assistance from others. It is rare that I will accept help from people when they offer it. And even more rare that I will be the one to ask for help.
But I’m realizing that no longer works for me.
I’m going through a bit of a rocky transition in my life. I’m tired and spread thin. I use up most of my energy going to work or school. Then I come home and have to tackle motherhood with that same enthusiasm – or more.
And I can’t do it alone.
I don’t why it’s so difficult for me to accept help from others. I think I dislike the idea of feeling like I look weak or vulnerable. I mean, I’ve taken on all these tasks in my life, so I should be able to handle them like a badass….right?
Having more things to do than I do energy and sitting exhausted at the end of everyday is showing me that no, I can’t do it all.
When I announced my separation from my husband, my support system rallied around me. They’ve offered babysitting services, listening ears and wine.
While I was initially hesitant to accept these gestures, I’ve now realized how blessed I am to have so many amazing people in my life. And how much easier things will be if I let them be by my side.
If you’re anything like me and are too stubborn to accept or ask for help when you need it, set that pride aside. You’ll thank yourself for it. Trust me.