Hi. My name is Paulette Parker and I’m a people pleaser. If someone asks me to do something - friends, family, colleagues, bosses - I am almost incapable of saying “no.” Low on cash? If I have it, it’s yours. Wanna hang out? Let’s go! – Even though I’m exhausted and broke. Need me to … Continue reading My Name Is Paulette And I’m A Chronic People Pleaser
Hey! Hello! Wow, it has been quite a while since I posted on this blog. In recent months my focus has kinda shifted. I love sharing my stories with you all and being open with my struggles with anxiety and depression. But to be honest, I became slightly discouraged by how few people actually read … Continue reading A Long Overdue Mental Health Update And Recommitment
Last weekend I was booked to do two speaking engagements. On Friday I was a panelist for an event called “Let’s Talk About Black Women and Trauma” hosted by The Sisters’ Couch. It was an intimate and powerful conversation held at Good Cakes and Bakes in Detroit (which smelled amazing by the way). The audience members … Continue reading Finding Healing Through Sharing My Story
I’ve worked quite a few jobs since entering the workforce in my teens. From fast food, to retail, to banking. And now public radio. While all these jobs were in different industries, I had one common experience while working them: Restlessness. Every job I’ve had, no matter how much I made, how much I loved … Continue reading Finding The Courage To Follow Your Calling
I have a confession to make. I’ve been a huge hypocrite. I write blog posts and statuses, and attend events preaching the importance of mental health awareness and encouraging people to take care of themselves. But I haven’t been taking my own advice. My mental health has been on a huge decline. My anxiety and … Continue reading Why I Need To Apologize For Being A Mental Health Hypocrite
My mother raised me to be independent. She would often regale my siblings and I with stories of how she raised five kids, worked and provided all on her own. She would tell me the importance of being able to do things on my own. How mothers don’t need “breaks” from their kids. All of … Continue reading Why Is Accepting Help So Difficult?
I’m getting divorced. [Cue judgmental and shameful looks] That’s part of the reason my blogging has pretty much been on hiatus since December. But, I’ve realized that I’ve shared so much of my life and battles with those who take the time to read my blog, how could I not share this painful, yet transformative … Continue reading I’m getting divorced. There, I said it.
Find this poem and more on my other blog: Musings of a Black Girl We are fire. Setting the world aflame. The spark between us like crimson embers. Our passion leaving ashen ruins in our wake. Embattled affection. Fault lines in fractured Earth. Shifting and quaking. Unsteadying the ground beneath our feet. A yearning Like … Continue reading A Natural Disaster
https://youtu.be/ZT_Vh8Rw5Vo My Mind and I We have a complicated relationship. I love the way we weavetogetherwords creating worlds. Writing ourself into infinite lives. How it recalls my dearest memories. My favorite food. My best friends. Some of my best choices. Many of my worst mistakes. I love how it talks my heart out of doing … Continue reading Complicated
I had a follow-up appointment with my doctor yesterday. It has been 9 months since I was sobbing in her office because I was tired of fighting with my mind. Now, as time passes, I remember less and less about the broken woman that I was. Everyone feels anxiety – that’s just life. And it’s … Continue reading It’s been 9 months since my anxiety diagnosis. Here’s what has changed.