Yesterday my ex-husband (that's a word that'll make you feel old) and I finalized our divorce. It took six months and more expensive trips to Downtown Detroit than I could afford. It was a semi-strange feeling. Signing our divorce decree in the same building where we signed our marriage certificate. Our marriage officially ending just … Continue reading My Divorce Is Final. Now What?
I still remember the phone call. Nearly five years ago. A Monday night. I was sitting on my living room floor watching TV and painting my nails. My phone rang. It was my mom. She nonchalantly asked me if I had heard about my dad..."Big Paul." I told her no. She simply said, "He died." … Continue reading What My Dad’s Death Taught Me About Life
Parenting is hard. And in this landscape of uncertainty, fewer things are harder than becoming a blended family. Mom. Dad. Stepmom. Stepdad. Biological kids. Step kids. Joining two familial units that existed independently for any amount of time is no easy task. Two people with even slightly varying parenting styles and philosophies suddenly have to … Continue reading What Has Changed Since My Blended Family Broke Up
Every Friday as I leave for work, I know that while I’ll see my oldest daughter when I get home from work, I won't see my youngest again until Monday. The is the routine her father and I have unofficially adopted since our recent separation. She spends the week at home – since she has school. … Continue reading How It Feels To Become The “Un-Fun” Parent After Divorce
I never anticipated this current season in my life. I’m raising two kids, going to school, and trying to build my career. And at the ripe age of 30 years old, I’m suddenly navigating life as a single mom. I’m realizing that when the trash needs to be taken out, I have to do it. … Continue reading Redefining Life As A Suddenly Single Mom
I’m getting divorced. [Cue judgmental and shameful looks] That’s part of the reason my blogging has pretty much been on hiatus since December. But, I’ve realized that I’ve shared so much of my life and battles with those who take the time to read my blog, how could I not share this painful, yet transformative … Continue reading I’m getting divorced. There, I said it.
Disclaimer: If you have a kid next to you who still believes in Santa AND can read, you’ll want to bookmark this for later. My youngest daughter still believes in Santa. She made her Christmas list, has been reminding me everyday that we need to drop it in the mailbox at the mall, and is looking … Continue reading The Last Year Of Santa Claus?
This weekend I put up my Christmas tree. That means the main window in my house will be obstructed until at least the middle of January. Great. I could honestly do without Christmas trees or other decorations. But I do it because it means a lot to my kids. And I remember how magical and … Continue reading How My Kids Brought Meaning Back To The Holidays
Crying is instinctual. It’s one of the first things we do when we enter the world. Nobody teaches us how. It’s second nature, like breathing. It’s our only way of communicating our needs before we learn to talk. So why, if it’s so natural, does it become taboo later in life? Do you ever feel … Continue reading To Cry Or Not To Cry In Front Of Your Kids?
A few days ago my daughter lost her first tooth. Her first tooth?! I feel like it hasn’t even been long since the day I met her for the first time. Barely making it to the hospital in time. And feeling ALL the pain of childbirth since I didn’t have time to get any pain … Continue reading Learning To Live In The Moments Of Motherhood