Hi. My name is Paulette Parker and I’m a people pleaser. If someone asks me to do something - friends, family, colleagues, bosses - I am almost incapable of saying “no.” Low on cash? If I have it, it’s yours. Wanna hang out? Let’s go! – Even though I’m exhausted and broke. Need me to … Continue reading My Name Is Paulette And I’m A Chronic People Pleaser
I’ve experienced, learned and gained so much since starting my blogging journey more than a year ago. But one thing that had stood out more than anything is the tribe of women forming around me that seems to be ever-growing. I started this adventure pretty much alone. I didn’t personally know any other bloggers. So, many … Continue reading Why Every Woman Needs A ‘Girl Tribe’
Yesterday my ex-husband (that's a word that'll make you feel old) and I finalized our divorce. It took six months and more expensive trips to Downtown Detroit than I could afford. It was a semi-strange feeling. Signing our divorce decree in the same building where we signed our marriage certificate. Our marriage officially ending just … Continue reading My Divorce Is Final. Now What?
Last weekend I was booked to do two speaking engagements. On Friday I was a panelist for an event called “Let’s Talk About Black Women and Trauma” hosted by The Sisters’ Couch. It was an intimate and powerful conversation held at Good Cakes and Bakes in Detroit (which smelled amazing by the way). The audience members … Continue reading Finding Healing Through Sharing My Story
I still remember the phone call. Nearly five years ago. A Monday night. I was sitting on my living room floor watching TV and painting my nails. My phone rang. It was my mom. She nonchalantly asked me if I had heard about my dad..."Big Paul." I told her no. She simply said, "He died." … Continue reading What My Dad’s Death Taught Me About Life
I’ve worked quite a few jobs since entering the workforce in my teens. From fast food, to retail, to banking. And now public radio. While all these jobs were in different industries, I had one common experience while working them: Restlessness. Every job I’ve had, no matter how much I made, how much I loved … Continue reading Finding The Courage To Follow Your Calling
I have a confession to make. I’ve been a huge hypocrite. I write blog posts and statuses, and attend events preaching the importance of mental health awareness and encouraging people to take care of themselves. But I haven’t been taking my own advice. My mental health has been on a huge decline. My anxiety and … Continue reading Why I Need To Apologize For Being A Mental Health Hypocrite
Parenting is hard. And in this landscape of uncertainty, fewer things are harder than becoming a blended family. Mom. Dad. Stepmom. Stepdad. Biological kids. Step kids. Joining two familial units that existed independently for any amount of time is no easy task. Two people with even slightly varying parenting styles and philosophies suddenly have to … Continue reading What Has Changed Since My Blended Family Broke Up
Every Friday as I leave for work, I know that while I’ll see my oldest daughter when I get home from work, I won't see my youngest again until Monday. The is the routine her father and I have unofficially adopted since our recent separation. She spends the week at home – since she has school. … Continue reading How It Feels To Become The “Un-Fun” Parent After Divorce
My mother raised me to be independent. She would often regale my siblings and I with stories of how she raised five kids, worked and provided all on her own. She would tell me the importance of being able to do things on my own. How mothers don’t need “breaks” from their kids. All of … Continue reading Why Is Accepting Help So Difficult?