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Mental Health

My Name Is Paulette And I’m A Chronic People Pleaser

Hi. My name is Paulette Parker and I’m a people pleaser. If someone asks me to do something – friends, family, colleagues, bosses – I am almost incapable of saying “no.” Low on cash? If I have it, it’s yours. Wanna hang out? Let’s go! – Even though I’m exhausted and broke. Need me to pick up that shift? Why…

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Lifestyle

Why Every Woman Needs A ‘Girl Tribe’

I’ve experienced, learned and gained so much since starting my blogging journey more than a year ago. But one thing that had stood out more than anything is the tribe of women forming around me that seems to be ever-growing. I started this adventure pretty much alone. I didn’t personally know any other bloggers. So, many of my earliest days were…

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My Divorce Is Final. Now What?
Parenting

My Divorce Is Final. Now What?

Yesterday my ex-husband (that’s a word that’ll make you feel old) and I finalized our divorce. It took six months and more expensive trips to Downtown Detroit than I could afford. It was a semi-strange feeling. Signing our divorce decree in the same building where we signed our marriage certificate. Our marriage officially ending just floors from where it officially…

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Parenting

What Has Changed Since My Blended Family Broke Up

Parenting is hard. And in this landscape of uncertainty, fewer things are harder than becoming a blended family. Mom. Dad. Stepmom. Stepdad. Biological kids. Step kids. Joining two familial units that existed independently for any amount of time is no easy task. Two people with even slightly varying parenting styles and philosophies suddenly have to try to get on the…

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Parenting

How It Feels To Become The “Un-Fun” Parent After Divorce

Every Friday as I leave for work, I know that while I’ll see my oldest daughter when I get home from work, I won’t see my youngest again until Monday. The is the routine her father and I have unofficially adopted since our recent separation. She spends the week at home – since she has school. And then on the weekends…

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Lifestyle, Mental Health, Parenting

I’m getting divorced. There, I said it.

I’m getting divorced. [Cue judgmental and shameful looks] That’s part of the reason my blogging has pretty much been on hiatus since December. But, I’ve realized that I’ve shared so much of my life and battles with those who take the time to read my blog, how could I not share this painful, yet transformative time in my life? Anyone…

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Mental Health

A Natural Disaster

Find this poem and more on my other blog: Musings of a Black Girl We are fire. Setting the world aflame. The spark between us like crimson embers. Our passion leaving ashen ruins in our wake. Embattled affection. Fault lines in fractured Earth. Shifting and quaking. Unsteadying the ground beneath our feet. A yearning Like frigid wind and stinging rain.…

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